The Art of Self Control
The Art of Self Control

The Art of Self-Control: Restraining the Mind and Refining Conduct

R. Eswaran

Founder – Acharya Vedanta Institute Bangalore 

In an age of information overload and constant external stimuli, self-control has become a rare virtue. Self control involves two key aspects—managing internal desires and limiting exposure to external temptations. Disciplined practice starts with external and gradually turns internal.

Every interaction with the world plants seeds for future desires. The more we expose ourselves to temptations, the stronger they grow. Therefore, consciously reducing unnecessary contact—whether through digital distractions, indulgent habits, or social influences—helps in breaking the cycle of compulsion. Even simple acts, such as switching off the phone for a few hours, serve as a training ground for restraint. A sudden withdrawal may lead to frustration and relapse. Instead, gradually reduce external contact and avoid new stimuli. Where desires are strong, mere abstinence fails—redirecting them toward the divine, with the help of external support known as satsang, association with the good is essential. However, general satsang is ineffective; spiritual association must address personal temptations. Remember, temptations make you forget your goal. 

Contrary to common belief, restraint is not about suppression—it is a tool for self-discovery. Withdrawal gives us an opportunity to become aware of hidden attachments. Fasting, silence or any form of disciplined abstinence exposes our dependencies, allowing us to consciously transcend them. However, prolonged withdrawal without spiritual redirection can lead to frustration. Therefore, replacing indulgence with sattvic (pure) alternatives is essential for sustained transformation.

Discipline builds awareness—just as exercise discourages overeating. Ignorance is a cycle of doing the right thing and then undoing it! For instance, we strive to refrain speaking ill of others. But practically one can talk endlessly about someone’s faults, but struggle to do the same about virtues. This only shows our affinity is towards negativity. This is ignorance. True transformation requires both knowledge and restraint.

Moreover, every individual serves as a stimulus to others. The way we conduct ourselves—our attire, language, and behavior—subtly influences those around us. Being mindful of what we project into the world ensures that we become source of inspiration rather than distractions.

In essence, self-control is not about withdrawal but about mindful engagement. By minimising unnecessary interactions, associating with the divine in areas of weakness, and consciously refining our speech, thoughts, and actions, we create an environment that nurtures inner growth. Restraint is not deprivation; it is the key to lasting freedom.

 

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